ellen fedors on intimacy

“I’m interested in the way Rasmus sees the world. I don’t always agree but I always learn something and see a new angle.”


noun: intimacy

close familiarity or friendship.”the intimacy between a husband and wife”

Similar: closeness/togetherness/affinity/rapport/attachment/familiarity/confidentiality/close association/close relationship

a cosy and private or relaxed atmosphere. “the room had a peaceful sense of intimacy about it”

sexual intercourse.

Similar: sexual relations/sexual intercourse/sex/intercourse/lovemaking

Can you introduce yourself please?

Hi. My name is Ellen, and I’m a photographer from the Washington, DC. I studied Political Science and Art History at university in New York, and then moved to Paris. Lately though, I live between London and New York… and Copenhagen 🙂 I take a lot of pictures wherever I go of whomever I’m with, which is often Rasmus… I pack very little clothes, but lots of cameras.

What does intimacy mean to you?

This is a difficult question. I guess for me, it means to be with one another without judgement.

What does romance mean to you?

Laughs. If I can make someone laugh it brings me such joy.

How important has romance and intimacy between you been during the pandemic?

Hmmm – it’s not been a romantic pandemic. We rescued and cared for five feral kittens from our neighbourhood during the pandemic and then got them adopted to families. That felt romantic.

Do you ever share clothes ? If so what do you love about wearing it/them?

Yes. I steal all of Rasmus’ clothes. I just love what he finds. When we travel, it means I can pack less!

Why did you fall for each other?

Un échange culturel. A cultural exchange.

What keeps you together?


What do you cherish the most in one another?

I’m interested in the way rasmus sees the world. I don’t always agree but I always learn something and see a new angle.

les girls or les boys?

Les girls qui sont un peu les boys. The girls who are a bit like boys.

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